Untethered Warrior

Dating Post Divorce in the Decade of Choosing Single One of the biggest surprises of divorce is realizing just how much the whole interface of dating has changed—and how much harder it is now. First of all, the dating apps. They make every person completely and utterly disposable. Maybe even the spouses of the people trolling them. My best friend and I have dissected and re-dissected this dating phenomenon for years. These apps created an entire infrastructure for avoiding the real work. No effort. No accountability. No actual investment required. The people I’ve met? Let’s just say honesty isn’t trending. Old photos. Ages that magically pause. Careers that shift depending on the day. And a few… extra proclivities sprinkled in. Most people aren’t trying to build anything meaningful. And from a woman’s perspective, here’s the pattern: men always put their best foot forward until things turn intimate. Let me tell you something— Men need to wake the fuck up. When intimacy enters the ...

💛 What She Really Wants When she meets men, she often leads with the version of herself wrapped in armor — the strong exterior, the self-contained energy, the woman who doesn’t need anything from anyone. The one who seems detached, unbothered, and impossible to hurt. And unsurprisingly, she attracts men who match that energy: emotionally unavailable, distant, and guarded.

CLAIM YOUR FUTURE, IT'S NOT WRITTEN YET We all grow up with this idea of what life is supposed to look like, and most of the time it’s not even our idea. It’s what we absorbed from our parents and our environment when we were too young to question anything. My version was a doctor dad, a nurse mom who stayed home with us, and siblings who actually liked each other. It was a stable upbringing, and I guess I assumed my life would roll out the same way. Why wouldn’t it?

SURVIVE AND THRIVE!1!  For three years — three long, confusing, exhausting years — I lived knowing with absolute certainty that my ex was having affairs . Not just suspecting, not wondering… knowing . And yet, I stayed. I think I’m one of those people who, despite all the evidence and despite her own better judgment, still feels sorry for the person hurting her. I wanted so badly to believe the lies he sold me — the story that it was just “one affair,” as if that somehow softened the blow or made the betrayal more acceptable. Looking back, I see how much of myself I silenced just to survive inside a truth that was already crumbling.

  When Betrayal Hits Home Few things are as crushing as finding out your spouse or partner has been having an affair. I believe I had intuition for years that my ex-husband was cheating.

  My Story Began With a Single Message That Shattered Everything Ten years ago, in the middle of cooking dinner for my three small children, my phone lit up with a stranger’s face — and in an instant, the life I thought I had collapsed beneath me. We were the family everyone envied. The beautiful home. The picture-perfect life. The future I had always imagined. Until that moment.